Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #4 – Slow Down
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Slowing Down. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Practicing Presence.
Hmmm… how to start this post and still sound positive? I don’t think it’s possible, so I’ll just call it like I see it… this week was a massive failure. I simply had too many deadlines to meet and “broke” all my rules. Slowing down just wasn’t in the cards nor was mindfulness or breathing or anything else! Here’s my list of “infractions” on my self imposed rules.
Rule # 1 – go to bed by 10:30 or 11 at the latest… I was up until 2 or 3 most mornings working and was exhausted when the girls when woke up around 9. Not a great way to start the day. No moment to breathe. One plus… despite being exhausted, I still managed to keep my cool when the kids were being kids.
Rule # 2 – be present while the girls are awake and save work for Tehya’s nap time and after they’ve both gone to bed. In order to try and meet deadlines and accomplish everything that I had put onto my plate, the girls spent a lot of time watching movies, so that I could get work done during the day as well. Not at all the kind of parenting I want to practice. I want my kids to be outside, enjoying the weather, playing in the backyard and have a mom who’s enjoying it all with them. That was just not in the cards this week.
Rule # 3 – take 10 minutes for myself to sit quietly and just be. I felt like I worked from the moment I woke up in the morning until the moment I crashed at night. Time to meditate or just breathe, simply could not happen.
Rule # 4 – eat three proper meals a day. Hmmm… so when I’m busy, I sometimes forget to stop and eat. Or if I do eat, I’m so tired that I choose something sweet (read chocolate or gumdrops) or salty (read chips). While I managed to get good food on the table for the kids, as soon as they were busy eating, I was busy working again. Not a great example to set for them, as I know my actions speak far louder than my words.
In short, I felt like a complete and utter failure. My kids didn’t get my best this week, and neither did Eric. As for me, I’d simply over committed and over scheduled, and now am paying the price. I’m so tired that I simply can’t enjoy the simple pleasures of life, like watching my kids blow bubbles in the backyard.
So there you have it. My week in a nutshell. Not what I’d hoped to be writing, but I did promise to be completely open and honest with this challenge. Here’s hoping next week, I can get back on track and find a way to finish some of these projects and gain control of the chaos.
Don’t forget to check out what the other blog carnival participants are sharing this week!
Stop, Amy Stop. Amy from The Connection We Share accepts her family’s invitation to slow down and finds that life will not be “better” when items get crossed off to-do lists. Life is perfect, right now.