Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #3- Practicing Mindfulness
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Practicing Mindfulness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Slowing Down.
At the beginning of the year, I talked about the “Jar of Happiness”. It was a simple idea to take note of the good that happens in every day life. To me, that’s what this week’s challenge was all about. To be more present every day. It also brought back some of the habits that I’d let slip since becoming a mom. This was a huge help in a very busy week, especially with the added challenges of Eric being out of town.
Years ago, I started out by waking up in the morning, and stopping for a minute. In this minute, I would breathe and think to myself, “Today is a great day!” I always found on the mornings that I took this time, I really did have a great day. Since becoming a mom, this is one of the habits that I’ve let slip. The excuses being that I don’t always have control over my sleep or when my day starts or how the night goes. Bringing myself back to this habit has been really nice. I loved the feeling of peace it brought to me and the amount of joy I was able to find in the little moments.
As hard as it is for me to not multi-task, this week I focused on being more present. When Ella would talk to me, I would stop what I was doing and look at her. We’ve been away a lot lately, so the kids routines are completely turned around. I found that by being more present, we avoided a lot of the melt downs that come with being over tired and out of sorts. A couple of nights, as I was heading out to water the garden and I happened upon some hummingbirds feeding, I just stopped to watch. Relishing in the joy that this moment brought to me. One night I had Tehya in my arms and she just giggled at the sight of him. I’ve made a point of including the kids in the process of adding to our happiness jar and Ella’s even asked a couple of times if she could put something in herself. It’s usually been a little drawing or something, but it’s still neat that she wants to be involved with it.
The biggest test for me was on Monday. My sister was helping Tehya get down off the stool after washing her hands before dinner. She was holding onto her arms, just above her wrists and as she set her down on the ground, she heard a pop and then Tehya started to cry. I came running up the stairs to see what was wrong, and I couldn’t get Tehya to stop crying. Half an hour later, she finally settled enough and told us that she wanted to eat. She refused to sit anywhere but on my lap, she used her left hand, instead of her right and she’d also start to cry, every time I moved her. I knew something was really wrong, when she wouldn’t lift her arm to suck her thumb. So we left Ella with my mom and dad, and my sister went up to the ER with me. I knew my sister was upset and worried, as was I, but I just kept breathing and focusing on everything turning out okay. When we finally saw the doctor, he said she’d likely dislocated her elbow, which is a very common injury in young kids. He popped it back into place, while Tehya had a good cry and then he left to get her a popsicle. As soon as he walked out of the room, I knew everything was okay, because Tehya started to suck her thumb. Her go to comfort source when she’s upset or tired. I was so glad that I was able to stay present and focus on the good that came out of this little event. I was thankful that this happened while we were at my parent’s house, so that Ella could be taken care of, since Eric is out of town. I was grateful that my sister could come with me and keep me company. I was also truly grateful for the resiliency of children. The next morning, you’d never be able to guess that anything had happened to Tehya!
So how did you do this week? I’d love your feedback. Also, be sure to check out the blog posts from the other parents participating in the carnival!
Week #3- Practicing Mindfulness – Jennifer from The Children’s Directory discovers how sometimes we get so caught up in all the garbage that life dumps on us that we forget the little things that makes it all worth it.
Week 3 – Mindfullness – Amanda from Family and Baby Sign Language harnesses her power to attract more positive.
Being in the Now – Week #3 of the Peaceful Parenting Challenge, Mindfulness – Michelle from My Peaceful Parenting finds true happiness in the moment.