They say that the first step to changing a habit is to admit that you have a problem… so here it goes!
Hello… my name is Katrina and I am an “Over-Committer”
I have trouble saying no. I believe that I can do everything I was doing before I had kids and that nothing will suffer. I believe that there are more hours in the day than there actually are. I want to make everyone around me happy… but in reality, I’m the one who suffers the most. I often stay up way too late, trying to get everything done, and I sometimes feel like the “walking dead,” awake but barely functioning.
At the beginning of the year, I made a few commitments to myself about what I wanted to accomplish this year.
One was setting aside one weekend a month that is for family time. No work, no friends, just time to be together. We can work on projects in the house and possibly a little work after the kids go to bed at night, but for the most part, it’s about spending time together. This has definitely helped to slow down our schedule a little. Our weekends are calmer and we’re getting some downtime, but more importantly, the kids are definitely loving it!
The next one, was to commit to finding time to get back into the routine of regular workouts. The year started off strong, but the last couple of months have been tough. The girls got sick and were up a lot in the middle of the night, so sleep was disrupted even more, then things got really busy with work…. etc. etc. etc. The list of excuses is pretty easy to come up with. So… I’m resetting my goal and am getting back on track with this.
I set a bedtime for myself of 10:30… this lasted about a week and then I had a deadline to meet and stayed up late… then the kids had a particularly clingy day and I didn’t get work finished during the day… then… then… then… Again, the excuses were endless, but again, I’m resetting this goal, as I know I function better when I’ve had a good night’s sleep.
There are more… but I’m not ready to share them yet. At times, I feel like a complete and utter failure, because there are SO many things that I want to do with my time and it somehow just disappears into the list of every day tasks that need to be done… like laundry and dishes and cooking and cleaning. And even those tasks aren’t done to the standards that I expect of myself.
So… I’m taking a deep breath, forgiving myself for all the things I’ve “failed” at so far this year and I’m moving forward. I’ll reset all my goals, reset the targets that I need to stay focused and most importantly, I’ll remember that it’s not important how many times you fall down… just as long as you get back up again. Especially because I need to show these two, how it’s done!