A couple of months ago I was chatting with a friend on the phone. In the background, my kids were having a meltdown. They were tired, hungry, and wanted my attention. My friend’s comment was something along the lines of “You have no idea how good it makes me feel to know that your kids aren’t always perfectly behaved!” Initially the comment hurt a little, but I do know what she was trying to say.
We live in a world where everyone is posting their highlight reel to social media. It’s become a “contest” to see how many likes, shares, retweets, etc something can get. We’ve become a society that says, “Look at me, I have it all together.” The reality of life is usually far different from what we show the world.
When did we become a society that spends more time worried about what other people think and less time worried about what we think? When did we start to place so much pressure on ourselves to live up to impossibly high standards? When did we become so judgmental of the choices other people make? Choices that really don’t make any difference to our day to day lives, but we feel it’s okay to impose our values on them.
I will be the first to admit, I’m far from perfect. I make mistakes. My house is often messy. I get stressed. I get grumpy. Sometimes, I even wish for my life to be the way it was before we had our two amazing girls. I miss the days where I knew that when I went to sleep at night, that I would be sleeping until it was time to wake up in the morning… not some arbitrary time set by little people. I miss the connections and efforts we all made before email, text messaging and Facebook took over our world. Where we all have a vague idea of what everyone we care about is doing… but not a really good grasp of how they are actually doing. There are moments where I wish for more humanity, kindness and joy in our world… so starting now, I’m going to make an effort to change my little portion of the world. I’ll be finding ways to add a few more random acts of kindness into my week and making more HUMAN connections with the people I care about. I’ll be looking for more ways to share just how grateful I am for the amazing life I lead… imperfections and all. Life is what we choose to make of it, I hope you’ll consider joining me in the effort to make it a little better.