Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #6 – Developing Positive Self-Talk
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Developing Positive Self-Talk. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Watching Our Language.
What are the first words you say to yourself in the morning when you wake up? Are your thoughts happy or sad? Are you ready to face the day? What is the first thing you think when your kids are being kids? Is it “these kids are driving me CRAZY” or do you chuckle and remind yourself that they are just being kids? This week was all about developing Positive Self Talk. It was about consciously choosing your thoughts and seeing the changes that happen.
I have to say, this week was pretty easy for me, as I first learned about affirmations and positive thoughts when I was about 6 or 7 years old. My parents had just discovered authors like Louise L. Hay and Dr. Wayne Dyer and had started to work on improving themselves, while at the same time teaching us. They bought us tapes that we listened to as we fell asleep. They did things very differently then how they had been raised and their ideas were often met with criticism from their parents. My grandparents were convinced that my parents were raising “bad” kids, who would cause nothing but trouble as they got older. I’m grateful that my parents persevered and believed so much in what they were doing. I feel it’s given me a great leg up in my life’s journey.
When I was in grade 6, I needed to have surgery. My parents took me to a doctor of Chinese medicine that specialized in creating relaxation and meditation tapes for his clients. He made me a tape that my parents played for me continuously starting from the moment I was back in my room. The doctors were amazed at how quickly I recovered and how steady my vitals were after the surgery. They thought that I would be in hospital for a least a week and then home from school for at least two weeks. I had my surgery on Monday, I was released on Thursday and I was back to school on Friday. This simple event continues to remind me how extremely powerful our minds are.
When I was about 25, I was listening to a CD by Louise Hay. In there, she talked about how children are born with a natural affinity to LOVE absolutely everything about themselves. The doubts and negative self talk are things that we learn from adults. She wondered what would happen to the world if kids were taught how to keep loving themselves. This part of the CD keeps playing over and over in my head now that I’m a mom. It’s because of this that I developed a game that I play with my girls before they go to bed at night. I have them look in the mirror at themselves and repeat after me. It goes something like this. “Goodnight Ella. I love you. You are AWESOME. You are AMAZING. You ROCK. Have a great sleep.” Then I finish up with them blowing themselves a kiss. Sometimes, if we’re having a particularly tough day, I’ll have them do this in the middle of the day. It’s incredible how we can often turn a day from bad to good with this simple exercise.
All this said, I am by no means perfect. I have “bad” days too, where I allow myself to get caught up in negative thoughts and emotions. I have days where I stew about problems and allow them to get me down. Most of the time, I’m able to catch myself and turn it around by reading some of the affirmations cards that I have tucked around the house. It’s not always easy to snap myself out of a funk and it’s definitely harder when I’m tired. It’s also harder when the kids are tired and out of their routines. So despite almost 30 years of practice, I’m still learning and growing.
So how did you do this week? I’d love to hear from you!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Peaceful Parenting: Week 6 – I am NOT an Independent Woman … and that is okay.- Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat reminds herself it’s ok to ask for help.