Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #8 – Unplug
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about unplugging. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of spending time outside.
We are in a time where everyone is becoming more and more reliant on their personal computing devices. I love to people watch and have done it for as long as I can remember. When I was younger, I used to like making stories up about what people were laughing about or thinking about or how they met. Now, when I sit to watch, I’m always amazed at the number of people who can sit across from each other and “be together” but not actually be “connected”. It makes me quite sad. How lonely it must be to be sitting at a table with your friends, but they are far more interested in what’s happening on Facebook than talking to you.
A long time ago, Eric and I made the decision to get rid of our TV. We found that we’d turn the tv on at dinner time to watch one show and before we knew it, we’d watched 3 hours or more. It also meant that we weren’t connecting with each other. I think it’s one of the best decisions we’ve ever made and I don’t miss it for one second. That’s not to say that we don’t have time where we are plugged in… and there’s plenty to watch on You Tube, but I find it easier to turn off at the end of that show than to just watch what happens to come on next.
Since starting this challenge, one of the things I’ve been working on, is creating a routine in our house. I’ve recognized just how chaotic I’ve allowed our lives to become and I’m trying to scale it back. Part of what I’ve started to implement is time outside every day. This has meant trips to the park, bike rides around the block after dinner and time spent playing in the back yard. It’s still a little early to tell, but I think it’s starting to make a difference to how quickly my kids fall asleep at night. I’m hoping that as our schedule becomes a little more “solid” and “normal”, that I’ll be able to work less when the kids are awake and more when they are asleep… and still get myself to bed at a decent hour, instead of 2 or 3 in the morning.
I know my kids have loved having me be less connected. To spend time concentrating on them when they are awake, riding bikes or playing games, instead of trying to occupy them with a game they can play on their own while I sit in front of my computer working, has meant a lot of things. Tehya’s happier and a little less “clingy”. Ella’s not saying things to Tehya like “Not right now, mommy’s working” (which, by the way, always breaks my heart!) and the atmosphere in the house is far more peaceful. I’ve also found that it’s nice to be able to spend some time each evening to simply connect with Eric, like we used to before we had kids. All of this, because we make the decision to turn off our computers and ipods and cell phones and just be. It’s lovely.
So how did you do this week? Would love to hear from you!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Week 8 – Unplug your screen and plug in to your kids – Amanda from Sticky Hands thinks the less screen time the more face time with her kids!